Qualifying Women...

There are many reasons why you want to learn to qualify women. One very important reason I can think of right now off the top of my head is COMPATIBILITY. You want to determine whether or not you and this woman will get along, and determine what things you have in common, if any.

Another very important reason you want to learn to qualify the women you encounter is to make sure that both you and her don't waste your time. How much would it suck if you were to have a sexual relationship with a woman and find out months later that she doesn't believe in god... and you do... Think about it for a minute and see how you might feel....

Qualifying women/men is a very important habit that you want to develop, as if you hadn't noticed that already....

Another important note on qualifying women: Don't overdo it!!! Let me clarify what I mean by that: Don't keep qualifying a woman after she's qualified herself to your satisfaction ie you have lots of things in common, as far as similar values and beliefs.

When you overdo the qualifying phases, it can put the woman under a sort of pressure that can be uncomfortable to say the least, especially if you haven't developed a steady and deep rapport with one another.

I've been on the end of qualifying overdone and let me tell you, it sucks. I don't think that this girls intentions were to "overqualify" me and in doing so, make me very uncomfortable.

Long story short, we met in a really awesome nightclub in London on a Saturday night and she called me the following monday. We spoke on the phone for about an hour, and let me tell you, it felt as if that was the longest hour of my life up to that point...

Have you ever felt like time seemed to slllllloooooooowwww wwwwwwaaaaayyyyy ddddoooowwwnnnnn, almost to the point where it seemed to stop....

After her first few questions, and after asking me if I was a vegetarian or if I drank regular milk, it became clearly obvious to me that she was screening me/qualifying me, which was okay, but it just felt more like an interview rather than a heart to heart conversation, partly because we hadn't spent anytime to together and developed any rapport.

I sure do appreciate the aggressiveness of the ladies in London, that's for damn sure.

My point is this: Make sure you have developed rapport with a man/woman before you qualify them. You want the other person to be comfortable because, after all, this may turn out to be something very special and you want to have a solid foundation on which to develop a relationship, whether it be sexual or monogamous.

You can develop rapport by matching physiology of course. This is subtly mirroring their body movements and gestures. You can also mirror breathing, although some people find that a bit challenging at first. However, as with all things, it's a challenge in the beginning until you practice noticing these things.

Once you start to pay attention to things like breathing and the gestures a person makes, it's starts become easier to match and mirror.

There are tons of ways to easily gain rapport with the person you choose.

The only thing that matters is that you have fun learning and discovering all the neat ways you can do that. Now...


Have Fun,

Amir


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